Turning Setbacks Into Steps Forward

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In my last article, I outed myself as a Food Addict and so many of you responded so positively and for that – I thank you.

Today I want to talk about turning setbacks into steps forward. We should all be familiar with the expression, “two steps forward, one step back.” Why is there seemingly a setback each time there are steps made forward?

The resulting sequence of events has to do with the expectations of the person making such progressive strides. Throughout one’s course of efforts for self-betterment, it is quite common to make progress and then experience a setback. As this becomes what one deems to be “normal” or “just what happens to me”, the expectation of such results is increased and the end result is always the same. Essentially, one who believes this, will make endeavors expecting to ‘just get so far before experiencing a setback,’ which actually creates life hurdles that prevent them from achieving their goal(s) in a reasonable amount of time.

For example, after issuing my last post, I was really revved up and ready to embark on a new project. Part of this project, (details of which will come in time) is keeping a very specific journal documenting my food and feelings, as well as increasing and modifying my exercise regimen. I “floored it” in my Cycle class on Thursday evening, even receiving the compliment from an onlooker that she had, “never seen anyone go so fast before.” My Cycle nickname is “Johnny Rocket” for a reason! Love it!

On Friday, I did a different workout which focused on toning with repetitive weight lifting, consisting of lights and heavies. Now, when I say lights and heavies I’m talking about 7.5 lbs and 12 lbs. These are free weights and I am by no means overdoing it.

On Saturday, I was speaking with someone on the phone while sitting on my bed, unsupported and leaning incorrectly I guess, because when I got up, my lower back was pulling and it was quite irritated. This hindering feeling disrupted any chance of exercise on Saturday, Sunday, Monday and Tuesday. With each passing day, the strain decreased but my movement was still restricted and I didn’t want to risk restraining the area and refrained from anything more strenuous than walking, which was difficult enough!

Now, most people, including me, would use something like a strain or a sprain to excuse them from everything – including exercising and eating properly.

I am happy to say that I successfully managed my food addiction this time. Friday was good, Saturday was good, Sunday was good, Monday was good, Tuesday was good. There were no tragic moments, no program-killers and nothing that completely derailed my efforts. Granted, I struggled immensely with my thoughts, since my thoughts are deeply rooted in habits I formed as a young child.

Thoughts like, “Oh, I have a boo-boo, let me eat this to make it better” were very prevalent but my new thoughts like, “I am going to control my addiction and not allow my addiction to control me” were very helpful in getting through each stressful moment. What also helped tremendously was keeping my Food and Feelings Journal, where I wrote detailed accounts each day about what I experienced during those days, how such experiences made me feel, the food choices I made, how I felt about those, so on and so forth.

Writing it down has always been the activity that keeps me successful and keeps me from nearing 300 pounds again.

There is no judgment within a journal – just feedback.

When we are trying to lose weight or maintain our weight management efforts, the last thing we need to hear is someone who doesn’t have a weight problem or a food addiction, telling us what we’re doing wrong or what we should be doing instead. However, if one tells their journal all about their efforts, the journal doesn’t respond – it just lies there waiting for more, available to hang on to one’s every word without argument, input or opinion. It just opens up and listens.

It is through reading what we write that the feedback is obtained, conclusions are formulated and behavior modification occurs.

I could have, with great ease, allowed my lower back strain to set back my efforts toward achieving my “ultimate life”, but instead, I chose to continue taking steps forward, even if it takes a little longer to achieve something.

Every step forward is a step in the right direction. It is only when we start going backwards that we lose sight of where we were headed.

You have the power to create your Ultimate Life!

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Dr. Johnny Bergstrom, Msc.D., AMDA, is a Doctor of Metaphysical Science and an accomplished Law of Attraction Expert and Holistic Lifestyle Coach. To work with Dr. Bergstrom, please email your inquiry to Johnny@goteamjohnny.com.

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