Are “Effits” “Effing Up” Your Efforts?

The road to success is always under construction!

Please be advised – the contents of today’s article will be referring to the F word and while that particular word will not be written out of respect for all of my readers, the word will be written but modified to abstain from erring on the side of vulgarity. Its use in today’s article has a particular purpose and will shed new light on the damage that is done to ourselves when we use it in this particular way. Today I will show you how to modify its use to greatly enhance your quality life and help you to reach that which you aim for but seem to always fall short of achieving.

I can clearly remember meeting one of my clients for a private session and as we reviewed her week’s progress, her confession of a shift in her mental attitude came out and she explained to me that the week started well but she experienced what she referred to as a severe case of “The Effits.” Also written as the “F- its.” During times when she gave her all and then something got in her way of achieving what she was aiming for, rather than making a decision that would have taken just a little effort, she said “effit” and made the easier, less productive choice.

She took solace in knowing that she is not the only one who has suffered from a severe case of The Effits. I have heard many clients over the years, as well as family members, friends and coworkers all utter the phrase, “F—k it.” – or “effit” as we are calling it during this article. When life gets too hard, or one particular thing we are experiencing becomes challenging, we throw in the towel and say, “effit.”

What we fail to realize is that when we say “effit” we are not saying “eff-IT”, we are saying “eff-ME” because we are stating, out loud, that we are not worthy of that time and energy that we require to achieve that which we desire. We make endless excuses, we always look for ways to defer responsibilities and on top of all of that, we complain all the time about how this hasn’t changed, and that hasn’t changed; then we wait for someone to hold our hands and tell us that it will be okay and to just get through it, rather than just seeing it through to begin with!

Change your thinking; change your life.

Realize that when you are faced with a challenge and you say, “effit, I don’t care”, you are saying, “F—k me, I deserve to fail.” Everyone else in the world is so quick to give up on you, is so ready to cast you aside and is so ready, sadly, to say “F-you” and when you say “effit” you are agreeing with everyone else.

Don’t give up on you. Don’t stop caring about you. Don’t disregard your wants and needs for those of others – because if you do that, you are guaranteeing yourself a future that revolves around everyone else’s wants and needs and yours will never be met. If you want yours to be met, you need to take responsibility for your life, don’t you dare say “F-ME” and get it done. Then when you have accomplished that which you have set out to achieve, the appropriate phrase is, “GO ME!”

To conclude, watch what you say, for it reflects what you really think about yourself. To know what you truly think, you need only to hear yourself speak.

How you feel about you and how you think about you is how everyone else will feel and think about you. How do you want to be perceived?

Life is a full circle, people. Where does a circle begin? Well, wherever the pen first lands on the paper. Where does a circle end? Right back where it started.

Do you really want to end up back where you started, or would you rather turn a radius into a full diametric beeline to the good part? If you beeline to the good part you can make a full circumference back to THAT, as it will be your new starting point.

So, are your “effits” “effing up” your efforts? You know what to do. “F—it.” Sorry, I got so used to censoring. What I meant was, “Fix it.”

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Johnny Bergstrom, Msc.D. is a Doctor of Metaphysical Science and an accomplished Metaphysician, Speaker, Author, Law of Attraction Expert and Health & Wellness Coach. He has the “gift of ignition” – an innate ability to spark the internal fires and personal passions in just about every person he works with. Whether it is through a motivational speech, corporate pep talk, or the keynote at your next corporate function – Dr. Bergstrom is just the spark you need to ignite a raging fire throughout your organization! TeamJohnny, Inc. is based in North Palm Beach, Florida. He can be reached by emailing, or through his website,

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One thought on “Are “Effits” “Effing Up” Your Efforts?

  1. Loving the blog. It’s so true and the spin around from F-it to seeing the it as ME!!!! Powerful shift for me

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