We have two articles left in our “NOVEMBER” article series dedicated to helping you live the Ultimate Life™! The second “E” is a reminder that every day we live is a gift and for that very reason, we need to say, “thank you.”
We all have personal abundances that can never be depleted. One of the elements we have an abundance of is kindness. Kindness has a direct correlation to giving. Throughout this article series we have firmly established that in order to get, we must give. It works in that sequence and in that sequence only. Give; get. Got it?
When we are kind to others, we feel great when we see that our kindness is appreciated. When you hold the door for someone else, it is a kind gesture; a gesture that warrants a “thank you” by the person for whom the door has been held. When said person walks through the door with their face buried in their phone and has no clue that someone else consciously made the effort to be kind to them, it’s sad. It’s slightly aggravating to the person holding the door when someone walks through it and never gives thanks or shows appreciation. Yet, it’s only aggravating to the person who needs to hear thank you in order to justify their kind gesture.
Every day is a gift, that’s why it’s called the “present.” It feels great to do for others, just because. There is a beauty in being kind, in going out of one’s way for others and in spreading the outrageous joy that we all want to experience. When you hold the door for someone else, just do it because you want to be kind – not because you expect a “thank you.”
When someone else holds a door for me, I very consciously and somewhat loudly say “thank you” for multiple reasons. Gratitude is contagious – and when others behind you are walking through the same door that is also being held for them, their hearing your gratitude will catch on and everyone who goes before them will be thanked for continuing to hold the door.
Now, you may be asking, “Okay, so this article is about holding doors? What’s the big deal? Just open your own door.” This is not just about doors, but the doors are metaphors for life while still being a literal example. It feels good to be thanked, but it feels equally good simply choosing to be kind to others, for the sole reason of wanting to be kind – nothing else. The metaphor is that gratitude in one’s life is what opens the multitude of doors that one will walk through during their lifetime. Gratitude is the key that opens the doors, it is the person extending their open door to you so you may walk through with them (essentially making your journey through the door effortless) and it is also the great feeling that will join you through that door, while you make your way, gratefully, to the next.
Gratitude will open every door for you in your life and as you go through each day, get your face out of your phone when you walk and get those eyes up to see what is going on in the world. The photo of today’s blog is a hibiscus flower from my garden. I walk by this plant every day and wait for the buds to bloom.
The exterior of our house was painted last week and during the painting, it was very hard to water the plants since the hose was disconnected and everything was in disarray. At one point, the plant was drooping and looked so sad and I felt terrible that I had neglected it. I had stopped seeing it, I had stopped thinking about it and I forgot to give it the simple thing that it needed most – love. Where there is gratitude, there is love. So quickly, I had forgotten how much joy seeing the blooms on the plant bring me. I found the watering can and watered that plant like it had never been watered before. I filled that watering can with such love, such vital energy, such gratitude for its beauty and begged it to regain its strength and perfect health. The next morning, it had. The buds hadn’t bloomed, but the leaves were crisp and looked excited to be greeting the Sun. This morning, the blooms are absolutely abundant and the colors, so extremely vibrant. This plant went from being nearly dead to being full of life and vitality – all from gratitude.
When we bury our faces in our phones, our work, our lives – we miss what is right in front of us. Too often I hear someone say to another person, “It’s so beautiful outside today, huh?” and the other person responds, kind of taken aback, “Oh, hmm…I hadn’t noticed.” GET NOTICING! OPEN THOSE EYES! SEE THE AMAZEMENT THAT SURROUNDS YOU EVERY DAY! LOOK HOW BEAUTIFUL THE EARTH IS WITHOUT YOU HAVING TO DO ANYTHING TO IT BUT NOTICE IT!
November is a month centered around Thanksgiving and as I said in the last article, every single day should be Thanksgiving. You have so much to say “thank you” for. GET GRATEFUL!
Johnny Potrekus, M.Msc is the President and owner of TeamJohnny, Inc., which is a personal coaching and development firm dedicated to enlightening and empowering clients to live their best lives. TeamJohnny, Inc. is based in North Palm Beach, Florida. He can be reached by emailing Johnny@goteamjohnny.com, via telephone at 561-536-6316 or through his website, www.goteamjohnny.com
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