I was in a few coaching sessions this week and the holiday blues seemed to be a continuing theme. I kept hearing my clients reflecting on the year that is coming to a close, the things they still wish they had in their lives and the focus on where they currently are, which is not yet where they wish to be, specifically on a personal level.
Holidays provoke a lot of emotions from us and as we go through the season, it’s imperative that we learn how to master our thoughts so our thoughts don’t become derogatory actions that dominate us.
The general consensus is that the holiday season is designed to promote giving, gratitude, kindness, spirituality and love for all. Too many of us get down in the dumps for understandable reasons yet we repeat these behaviors every year and thus we begin to dread this time of year.
Let’s examine some of the most common factors that I have seen contribute to the negative mood of holiday seasons:
• We reflect on another year that has gone by and we are reminded that we are where we are, which may not be where we had envisioned being by this time in our lives.
• We begin to do holiday shopping and have our finances waived in our faces and for most people who are struggling to make ends meet, this is never a good feeling and gift giving becomes arduous rather than enjoyable.
• We tend to look at others who are seemingly overflowing with joy, love, prosperity and vitality and we wish the same for ourselves.
• We compensate for the negative emotions we experience during these times by overindulging in food and alcohol which only further buries us into states of misery.
• We focus on the family members and friends who have left our world and how much we miss them, bringing about sadness and depression.
I could go on and on.
We need to take a serious look at ourselves, our lives, our strengths, our positive qualities, our abilities, our goals, our achievements and our overall attitude toward living.
Life is meant to be enjoyed! Life is meant to be abundant for everybody!
If you have a job, say “thank you.”
If you have a place to live, say “thank you.”
If you have food in your belly, say “thank you.”
If you don’t question your ability to provide dinner for you and/or your family tonight, say “thank you.”
If you don’t have to wear rags and stand on an overpass begging for any scrap someone is willing to give you, say “thank you.”
If you can look to your left or right and see someone experiencing a joyful moment, say “thank you.”
If you can look at yourself in the mirror and see something you like, say “thank you.”
If you can hug someone today, say “thank you.”
If you can hear the words, “I love you” today, say “thank you.”
If you can breathe on your own, say “thank you.”
If you can remember what happened yesterday, say “thank you.”
If you have your health, say “thank you.”
If you have your limbs, say “thank you.”
If you have a bright spirit, say “thank you.”
If you know you make an impact on the lives of others, say “thank you.”
If you believe in yourself and your abilities to be awesome, say “thank you.”
If you have been given another day, another chance, another opportunity, say “thank you.”
If you believe you are in control of how you feel and that you can choose to find your joy, say “thank you.”
How do YOU become happy?
Take a look at how you answered the above. How many times did you say thank you? We all have so many things to be grateful for and if you read over the list again, not many of those items are material things.
Material possessions tend to just take up space and become more trouble than they’re worth. Don’t focus on not having the luxury car you yearn for – say “thank you” for the reliable transportation you have every day.
Don’t focus on the lack – or you will create more of it. Focus on your abundance so you can create more of THAT!
When giving gifts this season, be mindful of your budget but don’t feed the emotion that you don’t have enough to give because that isn’t true. YOU ARE THE GIFT!
Remember when you were a kid and you didn’t have any money of your own to buy people gifts?
Did you make cards and gifts with random things you had around the house?
Where did that creativity go?
Where did the sentimental quality of “I thought of you and conveyed my love for you with these random objects around the house” go?
If your budget is limited, go to a beautiful paper store or card store and find beautifully made cards for each person you’re giving a gift to. The card will be your gift. The best ones are blank so your personal sentiment can go inside, which might sound something like:
“I just wanted to tell you how much I love you and how grateful I am that you are in my life. Your presence in my life is the ultimate gift and because you are in my life, I know what true joy feels like.”
A sentiment from the heart can make anyone’s day brighter and if we all shared sentiments this season that were from the heart, just imagine how illuminated the entire season and our lives will be!
Spend some time every day thinking about what you have and give thanks. Don’t focus on what you don’t have with an “I don’t have” attitude. Focus on what you don’t have with a “yet” attitude.
“I may not have that YET but I want that and believe it is mine and I will take possession of it shortly.” Live in an attitude of gratitude and expect your life to be abundant.
Remember! What you think about, you bring about.
If you think about how sad the season is and everything you don’t have, your season will be dark, depressing and full of reminders of what you don’t have. If you notice and get conscious of how much you have and how much you have been given, your season and your whole life will be bright and full of reminders of how fortunate you are.
I am so grateful that I will be traveling this Thanksgiving and will be surrounded by people I love, peace, serenity, joy, adventure, fun, sun, nature and so much more. I am going abroad this Wednesday the 20th and will be away until December 2nd.
Have a very plentiful and joyous Thanksgiving and take a good, hard look at how much you truly have to be grateful for!
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